Monthly Archives: August 2013

the mirror and your reflection: seeing with the eating disorder


I came across this photo a few days ago on twitter and it really hit home with me.

even though i’m in recovery, i still look in the mirror and see something like this.

recovery isn’t easy.

recovery is hard work.

but in the end, it’ll all be worth it.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to stay strong.



dove real beauty sketches

close your eyes.

think about your face.

how your hair parts and falls on your cheeks.

how the skin around your eyes wrinkles slightly as you laugh.

how your nose looks when the light hits you just so.

now imagine a total stranger sat in a room with you and drew you based solely on your own description of the face you see staring back at you everyday.

what would you say?

how do you begin to describe yourself?

how do you begin to verbalize your flaws?

how do you begin to verbalize your own beauty?

for those of us with eating disorders, describing positive features on our bodies is difficult.

i might even go as far to say it’s near to impossible.

no matter what, there is something you would change about your face.

maybe it’s a feature your mother pointed out or something you were teased in school about.

words stay with us.

i know.

i have my own struggles just like you do.

but now, imagine seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes; through the lens of caring and positivity, the same lens i’m sure you view others with.

those imperfections you see: minimized.

your best features: highlighted.

who knows, maybe something will show up you never even noticed before.

on the left, "shelly" as she described herself. on the right, "shelly" as described by a stranger.

on the left, “shelly” as she described herself.
on the right, “shelly” as described by a stranger.

in april, the dove real beauty campaign set out to do exactly this: to prove to women they are more beautiful than they realize.

each woman described her own face to an artist (who could not see his subject) and afterwards a total stranger described the same woman.

when the pictures were placed side by side, the results were visibly overwhelming.

all of the women appeared more beautiful in the second drawing than in the first.

all of them.

the subjects harshly described themselves and exaggerated her own less desirable features.

it wasn’t until they were given a glimpse into what others saw, that they all began to truly realize their own natural beauty.

one of the women who was drawn during the “dove real beauty sketches” openly admitted that, “maybe we’re all more beautiful than we think.”

maybe she’s right.

maybe if you give it a chance, you’ll begin t believe it too.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to see your real beauty.

back from the near east


thank you to everyone who has checked out my account over the past month!

i’ve been in the near east serving as a summer camp counselor and haven’t had internet.

one particular week, i had a beautiful bulimic girl in my cabin and we were able to share our similar experiences with each other. i was able to give her some advice on recovery and she was able to encourage me with her kind words.

it just further proves that eating disorders know no boundaries. we may live in different countries but we’re all fighting the same battle.

thank you again for continuing to visit my site. i promise there will be more regular postings.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to know that’s a fact.

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