Monthly Archives: April 2013

dove beauty campaign

we all strive for beauty.

but the images we see aren’t real.

so why manipulate your body to become something that isn’t natural?

you are beautiful.

you deserve to be who you naturally are.

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body comparisons as an anorexic

you do it everyday.

i do it everyday.

body comparisons are incredibly triggering for someone suffering from anorexia.

seeing someone thinner than you hurts.

seeing someone with anorexia who is thiner hurts even more.

it makes the disease scream louder in your ear.

it makes you feel like your worthless.

for those of you without an eating disorder: be thankful.

be thankful you’ve never experienced these thoughts.

be thankful you can walk in public without feeling the entire world is looking at you and thinking:

“she’s so fat. she’s so ugly. poor girl.”

now that i’m in recovery, i can notice the negativity of my thoughts.

i’m trying to learn these thoughts aren’t true.

this video was created from my personal memories.

this is what it was like living in my head when i was anorexic.

everyday.

my message to you if you’re suffering: you’re not alone.

i was there.

i told ana she did not own my life anymore.

the courage to silence the negativity and end the comparisons is there inside you.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to end the physical comparisons.

be your own statistic

after reading so many staggering stereotypes for my last blog post “pretty as the picture,” i decided to create this video to inspire and inform.
while i am not the girl being interviewed, i believe her words speak volumes as she describes living in a world where outward appearance is everything.
but you can defy the odds.

you can defy the statistics.
spread the message of inner beauty and self-confidence.
you are beautiful.

you deserve to be your own statistic.

pretty as the picture

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pop quiz time:

on a scale of 1 to 10, just how comfortable are you with yourself.

you don’t need to answer out loud. this isn’t a test, you aren’t being graded on your answer.

just be honest with yourself.

how do you really feel about the person you are?

for some of you, i bet the first thing you thought of were your actions.

you deemed your self-worth based off of the charities you’ve volunteered for or the random acts of kindness you’ve recently performed.

for some of you, the first thing you thought of were your recent achievements.

maybe you’ve just gotten accepted into your dream school or maybe you’ve just been recognized as an outstanding athlete, and that’s how you’re deeming “self-worth.”

for some of you, i know the first thing you thought of was your physical appearance.

i’ll be honest, that’s what i thought of.

you deemed your self-worth off of the flatness of your stomach or the number sewn onto the tag of your jeans.

why is that?

why do you think that way?

why do i think that way?

if you haven’t, look at the slideshow at the top of this post.

take a moment and read those statistics.

let them all sink in.

wanna know a secret: i didn’t make those up.

those are not written out to just to be entertaining.

they’re true. every last one.

the society we live in has taught us to think that way.

the society we live in has taught us lie after lie after lie.

the society we live in expects us to believe those lies and treat them as truth.

no longer does the phrase “there is no one like you” ring true.

with the increase in popularity over plastic surgery, you are literally paying a doctor to have him strip you of the very characteristics that make you unique.

never thought of it that way, did you?

everything from advertisements, toys and even disney movies can be viewed as propaganda promoting this unrealistic way of life.

i decided to get another person’s opinion on the matter of fitting stereotypes, the mold and the broken society we all live in.

in this video interview, the girl speaking is not myself nor has she ever had an eating disorder.

yet, she recognizes the false teachings plastered at every turn.

she does not want to become part of another statistic.

you do not want to become part of another statistic.

i do not want to become part of another statistic.

i challenge you to look beyond the models’ pictures in the magazines, the tiny mannequins’ frames at the mall and the edited advertisements you see on t.v. and begin to see yourself for what you really are:

perfect and one of a kind.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to be your own statistic.

body comparisons

mirrors don't lie. they don't show you what you want to see; only the truth.

mirrors don’t lie. they don’t show you what you want to see; only the truth.

imagine you’re looking in the mirror.

what’s the first thing you look at?

your favorite feature? your “biggest flaw?”

i know personally, i look right to my trouble areas.

after all, i am my own worst enemy.

everyone has something she’d like to change about herself.

her hair, her clothes, her pants size…

someone with an eating disorder has a laundry list of things she’d “needs” to change about herself.

her collar bones that don’t show enough, her hip bones that are hiding when she stands up, her thigh gap that could be wider…

society has molded us into creatures of competition and comparison.

for some, it stemmed from your parents comparing your achievements to those of your older sibling:

“why can’t you get an A in biology? it was so easy for morgan…”

for others, it began in friend groups:

“let’s all try and see who can lose the most weight before school ends. winner gets the best bikini body…”

but for some of you, the pressure was self instigated:

“i need to become a size 0 or no one will like me. people are already embarrassed of me because i’m so fat and ugly…”

competition is healthy, in moderation.

comparisons are normal, it’s human nature.

however, someone with an eating disorder will take the idea of body comparison to an extreme level.

normal activities, which are done everyday, become terrifying and pressuring.

choosing an outfit in the morning can seem like a struggle.

often times it seems no matter what you put on, you’re going to look fat.

you scrutinize every portion of your frame and look for the flaws:

“my stomach doesn’t look flat enough in these pants.”

“this shirt shows every fat roll on my body.”

eating in public is a nightmare that is avoided at all costs.

you’re afraid of what people will think once they see you eat.

“they’ll think i’m a pig because i’ve eaten so much.”

“what if they’re looking at my stomach? it’s already so bloated.”

school is a struggle almost everyday.

walking down the hallways, you suck in your stomach so people will think you’re thinner than you really are.

sitting in class, you tuck your pants over your lower stomach to hide anything that might spill over.

you look at the skinny girls, the popular girls, the pretty girls everyday.

for once you just want to look like them.

for once you just want to be beautiful.

in your eyes, you’ll never be good enough.

no matter what you do, no one will ever accept you because you don’t deserve it.

and that’s where you’re wrong.

that’s where i’m wrong.

you are not ugly; society is for making you believe that you are.

no matter how many times you compare yourself to the models in the magazines or the girls in the hallways, you won’t magically turn into them.

tried it. it’s not that easy.

there’s something beautiful and unique about each and every one of you.

i firmly believe this.

you are kind, you are smart and you are strong.

i know you won’t believe this but there is someone right now wishing she could be you.

wishing to have your body. wishing to have your smile. wishing to have your hair.

crazy, huh?

i challenge you to stop comparing yourself to others and start thinking about how amazing you are.

there’s no one quite like you so why be a duplicate?

you are beautiful.

you deserve to not compare your body.

“pinspiration”

i have a pinterest addiction.

i should probably go into rehab soon before i decide to become a hermit and live only through my “pins.”

ok, so maybe that’s an exaggeration…

for those of you with pinterest accounts, you know there’s everything from food to weddings to clothes to quotes on that site.

i know, pinterest has it going on.

i adore the clothing category.

if i found a genie in a bottle, i would ask for a closet made up of my pinterest pinned clothes.

unfortunately, the odds of me finding a genie are even slimmer than me having the money to purchase all of these clothes.

alas, a girl can dream.

apart from the glamourous clothing, the women modeling the clothes are equally as beautiful.

sometimes, i find myself wishing i had the models legs or her toned body and completely forget about the clothes she’s trying to get me to buy.

for as much as i love pinterest, i hate how insecure it makes me feel about my own body.

however, yesterday i was on the site and as i was looking at my home page, i came across this quote:

stop hating yourself for what you aren’t and start loving yourself for what you are.”

i literally stopped scrolling and just stared at my screen.

wasn’t it just five minutes ago that i thought, “i’ll never be able to wear that top and make it look as good as that girl,” and now i have this inspiration looking at me?

everything is about perspective.

everything is about preference.

what is beautiful to someone might not be to another.

so stop wishing you had straight hips and could zap away your curves.

i can promise you someone loves to watch you walk.

*wink wink*

stop wishing you could have a perfectly flat stomach.

marilyn monroe didn’t.

google pictures of her.

she had the body of a real woman and was absolutely stunning.

stop looking at your flaws, and start embracing all the wonderful features you possess.

you are beautiful.

you deserve to love who you are.

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