i love to practice calligraphy.
it’s a hobby i’ve discovered in the past six months.
why am i telling you this?
because i want you to know a little more about me.
ok, that’s not really the reason.
i guess the best way to answer my question is to ask you a question:
“how often do you think negative thoughts about yourself?”
i know. it’s rather shocking if you think about it.
all day long you give compliments to other people.
come on, i know you do.
so why shouldn’t you give yourself a compliment every once and a while?
i think you deserve it.
but let’s be honest: it’s way more fun to get them from other people.
so that’s exactly what i’ve done today.
i decided to handwrite you not one, not two, but three compliments about yourself.
if you don’t want to think of them as compliments (i know some of you get embarrassed, think of them as truthful statements sent in your direction.)
feel better about it? good.
the first note says, “you’re a butterfly.”
how is that a compliment, you ask?
butterflies take time to mature.
they live their lives trying to figure out where they fit in the world. one day, they build a cocoon (get some serious ‘beauty sleep’) and emerge as their true self.
that’s exactly what you’re doing in recovery: you were lost and trying to find where you fit in with the world and eventually, realized there’s more to life. rehab and seeking help would be your cocoon and when the process finishes, you emerge as yourself: a beautiful, perfect butterfly.
regardless of where you are in your recovery, or simply thinking about it, i want you to know you are a butterfly.
you are perfect.
the second note says, “beauty has no value.”
i know exactly what you’re thinking, “i value it.”
but think past the surface meaning, notice the picture of the scale at the top.
beauty has no numeric value.
there is no scale to determine what beauty truly is.
your perception of the word is probably a little different than mine.
it’s unique to the individual; just as you are to the world.
look at jennifer lawrence or beyoncé, are either one of those women pencil thin? are they ready for the catwalk?
so what makes them beautiful?
both celebrities are unique and confident in herself, both traits which radiate to the world.
whether you’re a size 2 or 22, you are beautiful.
just like age, weight is only a number.
the final note is my favorite compliment to relay, “you are beautiful.”
i promise, it’s 100% true.
there is no one like you and there will never be anyone quite like you again.
ever. in the history of this world.
that’s pretty cool if you ask me.
no matter what color your hair is, what color your skin is, what size your shirt is:
you are beautiful.
i can’t tell you enough.
so i challenge you to keep spreading the love.
don’t let these compliments end with you.
tell someone in the next hour they’re a beautiful person and i guarantee, your words will make their day a little brighter.
so love yourself, love the life you’re living, love the life you have.
you are beautiful.
you deserve to receive compliments.
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